Peter Gabriel's "I Grieve." Like Janni, Eliza Gilkyson's "Requiem." Warren Zevon, "Don't Let Us Get Sick." The Weepies, "World Spins Madly On." Steve Goodman, "My Old Man." Peter Mayer, "God is a River." Emmylou Harris, "The Pearl." The Burns Sisters, "God's Promise." R.E.M., "Try Not to Breathe."

Also, Stan Rogers's "White Squall," Dar Williams's "When I Was a Boy," and Bob Franke's "A Velveteen Love Song" make me bawl, but not exactly grieving.